Set learning/mastery goals instead of performance goals

Set learning/mastery goals instead of performance goals

To improve your child’s intrinsic motivation, help them set learning / mastery goals.

These goals place more emphasis on progress along the way and allow children to have lots of small wins on the way to their bigger goals.

This helps to keep them intrinsically engaged instead of placing all the emphasis on the end result. Think IMPROVE vs. PROVE. We don’t get to jump from step one to 100. We must make small improvements along the way to get to our goals. Often the big performance goal is overwhelming on its own. If we can find joy and engagement in each step, we are practicing our intrinsic motivation.

Help your child find joy in effort

Help your child find joy in effort

Sometimes effort and hard work gets a bad reputation. We are prone to thinking that if we have to work hard at a particular task or activity, we’re not ‘good’ at the activity. We assume that effortless mastery is the ideal situation.

However, mastery of whatever we love in life tends to come from investing lots of effort over time. The happiest people find joy in the effort of working towards something.

Try to pay attention to everything that’s happening with your child. Notice the things that you can see they’re working hard at. This will help them to see effort as a positive thing and help them to invest in the process (not just the outcome!).

Create a Learning Environment at Home

Create a Learning Environment at Home

Today’s tip for building intrinsic motivation with your kids is to create a learning environment at home.

What does a learning environment look like? This is a space where play and learning intersect. Make sure that your kids have access to items which stimulate learning, such as books, in these spaces.

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Activities Should be ‘Liked’ and ‘High Effort’

Activities Should be ‘Liked’ and ‘High Effort’

Today’s tip for building intrinsic motivation is to take some time to evaluate which activities in your kid’s life hold two key values.

That is, these activities should be both ‘liked’ by our children and ‘high effort’.

These activities increase our child’s interest, put them in the flow state, improve their perceived competence, and boost their self-perception.

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